Making life our own

Making life our own

“Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways.”

-- Stephen Vincent Benet

What’s needed for a new relationship with time and life?

Intention -- Get really clear about what you want.

Desire -- How much do you want something new for yourself? Know your motivation. Desire brings the energy for change.

Belief and/or willingness to trust you can have what you want. If belief is lacking, can you believe in the possibility that you can find a new way of living?

Perseverance, discipline -- It takes time and effort to change attitudes and habits. We can’t expect a new life overnight.

Acceptance, both of what’s happening now and of who we are. Until we honestly and openly accept our present situation, we cannot change it.

A willingness to try something new.

“It is so easy to waste our lives: our days, our hours, our minutes. ... It is so easy to exist instead of live. Unless you know there is a clock ticking. So many of us changed our lives when we heard a biological clock and decided to have kids. But that sound is a murmur compared to the tolling of mortality.”

-- Anna Quindlen

Our mind can be our greatest asset and our biggest enemy. We can use it to dream and create reality with our intentions or we can succumb to it's anesthetizing power and live in limbo held prisoner by our thoughts. I'm a dreamer but currently I am struggling with limbo. Self-realization is reached when we accept that existence does not promise anything other than a limited number of breaths in which to express ourselves. Some of us may never have a job we like or achieve public recognition. Perhaps our greatest achievement will be to have children. Others will shine with talents that eclipse all else. The key here is to know who you are and own your path whatever it might be. There is no reason to compare yourself to another. What matters is making the most of your experiences and being comfortable in your own skin.