Love and Fear

Love and Fear

We need to become aware of where we are coming from – be it fear or love in all our expressions. When we are coming from fear and are not aware of it, the fear is much more powerful. When we come from fear but are aware of it, we lessen its impact since awareness gives us choice and enables courage from the soul to enter into the expression. Awareness of the negative always enables us to choose differently.

When we are coming from love and are not conscious of it, the love will be weak or conditional, dictated by personality factors. When we consciously choose love we make a choice for soul and its essence which is unconditional love. This consciousness makes our love not only unconditional, but very powerful.

All of our expressions, no matter what they are, are imbued with either fear or love. Let us frequently ask ourselves: where am I coming from?

When we are in fear we try to control everything, while at the same time becoming defensive. These are survival strategies which are triggered in the more primitive part of the brain. At the same time that this is occurring we are unavailable for loving connection.

Control and trust are antitheses. They have an inverse relationship to each other. As you increase the one, the other decreases. When you are in a controlling mode, you likely have fear that you are not dealing with consciously. Part of effectively transforming our fear is choosing love and giving that energy. This requires trust, one of the most significant soul energies. Trust is, in fact, the bridge in consciousness between personality and soul, and the foundation for the integration of the two.

As we age we unconsciously try to control more and more. We do this by not being open to change and by allowing our habits and past patterns to dictate. This way of approaching our life keeps us in fear because it is survival oriented, and is in fact enhancing the death process. Whenever we opt for the past instead of the present we restrict the life energy from permeating our personal life. Letting go of control allows love to flow more freely. Love vitalizes while fear de-vitalizes.

Control shifts identity into a fearful stance within the personality. Trust shifts identity into a loving stance within the parameters of soul.

Only when we are aware of where we are coming from and make a conscious choice to let go of fear and controlling are we able to trust enough to love and to live more fully.

Exercise:

Notice when you are controlling. Reflect on what you are afraid of when you do this. In a reflective, meditative state imagine yourself letting go of control and trust that the intelligent, powerful and loving nature of life, of the soul within, will support you. Imagine yourself acting with the freedom that this conviction brings.


By Soul Journey

Great post

Wow, I sometimes think you are inside my head Solane because your posts mirror my experiences. Over the past few months, I have had a major epiphany regarding this topic and totally changed my life around. I discovered that the strength I had been so proud of was really fear and that it had shaped my entire life up until that point and robbed me of so many experiences. I wasn't even aware that I was living in fear. You see, I was brought up in a culture of fear and that is where I learnt to control things instead of trust in the processes of life and let my natural state of love be my compass. It was overwhelming once the layers of fear were revealed and I could clearly see how I had pushed experiences away from myself that could have made me happy or brought me contentment and peace. My own words betrayed me - when I listened to myself speak, there was more than negativity - there was fear. And that was what I was creating and passing on to my children. A big light bulb went on for me - this was a major turning point in my life. I thought I had done all the therapy and spiritual work to love myself and restore my self esteem. I thought I was a kind and compassionate soul. What lurked just beneath my awareness was how fearful I was of being hurt and how that translated into negative actions to push people away or punish those in my life I judged to be hurtful in their actions towards me.

And even though the awareness came through, the change took longer to happen. Undoing the damage and reprogramming your thoughts is a process. I am still engaged in it to this day - but it is getting easier. I have found my relationships with others have become far more enriching and joyful. My kids are learning to trust life rather than fear it. I am more peaceful and happy.

Fear can become a cage that traps us and holds us prisoner without us even being aware...take a look at your thoughts and actions. Does your life make you happy? Are your choices for the higher good of all or just yourself? Love is more than just caring for a selective few. It is being completely open and aware and treating all as if they are yourself. Because they are.

Kinda living in fear as we speak. Medical coverage is running out and we have to have coverage we can afford. Been unemployed for a year and a half. I have never been without a job and have worked my butt off for over 30 years. Unemplyment checks run out in a few weeks if there are no more extensions. Mom has had mini strokes in the past couple of months. So far she is ok, but being in her eighties...sigh...

"When we are in fear we try to control everything, while at the same time becoming defensive. These are survival strategies which are triggered in the more primitive part of the brain. At the same time that this is occurring we are unavailable for loving connection." This I respectfully disagree with. I am always available for loving connection. I put my faith in a higher power. I realize that I cannot control every aspect of my life. I feel that my fear is just a natural human reaction.

"Notice when you are controlling. Reflect on what you are afraid of when you do this. In a reflective, meditative state imagine yourself letting go of control and trust that the intelligent, powerful and loving nature of life, of the soul within, will support you. Imagine yourself acting with the freedom that this conviction brings." I have done this but still the fear and worry pop up. kind of difficult for it not to.